Dealing With…Life!

life May 05, 2021
Dealing With…Life!

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Oh my goodness! The last 13 days of my life have been, how shall I say? Interesting.

Back on April 22, I flew to Florida, with my wife, to take care of my Mom and Dad.

My Dad is 80 years old and my Mom is 76 but she has late-onset Alzheimer's, which means she's about a three or four-year-old trapped in a 76-year-old body.

Before I left, because I'm committing to releasing a brand new episode every day in 2021, I had to take all those interviews I was going to do the week we were gone and do them the week before. No problem. So far, so good.

The last human being I actually spoke to on my podcast was recorded on April 21.

Flew to Florida, got to my parents' home, everything was going just fine until Saturday morning. We were in the kitchen for breakfast and my father got dizzy and his defibrillator shocked him. Well, it's never shocked him before so it caused him to fall backward and strike his head on my wife's chair. And he developed this golf ball-sized knot on his head. Because he's on a blood thinner, we had an ambulance take him to the emergency room. So I spent my day my Saturday in the ER.

So I thought, "Okay, that's alright. We're going to be good the rest of the trip. Everything's going to go fine".

I'm an only child. And I grew up in a household where it was very structured. That's probably where I get my bent on productivity from. My father and I don't always see eye-to-eye so there was some conflict during our trip, which is okay. I had a conflict with my father my entire life. I still love him to pieces. I'm sure you probably have a family member, brother, sister, mother, father, aunt, or uncle that you have a conflict with. It's just part of life.

We came home on April 29, picked up our dog, who was in doggy daycare for the week. She was so excited to see us.

Then on a Friday, April 30, I hit the ground running. I had one podcast interview for my show. And I was a guest on three other podcasts. It's crazy.

What's interesting is my guest, on April 30, the episode was released on May 1, was the first person I talked to on my show since April 21.

Now, this is where it starts getting a little shaky. This is where I really have to remember that life is not out to get me, a big conspiracy.

On May 3, my guest sent me a text message and said that she's got a family medical emergency she had to cancel. All right, that happens from time to time. When you're doing five interviews a week, you're bound to have people get sick, have emergencies, things come up, they lose the internet, whatever. That was on Monday of this week.

Yesterday, Tuesday. I get online to do my interview with my guest. Remember, I've only spoken to one person on the podcast since April 21. That was on April 30.

I got all set and all of a sudden, I couldn't hear myself through my headphones. And my guest was talking but I couldn't hear them. So, I rebooted my computer.

Turns out my microphone has an input for my headphones that doesn't work anymore. I'm freaking out.

Then the guest says, "Don't worry about it. Where I am, there's a storm coming in." She was overseas someplace. "with the storm coming in and where I'm at, when it rains, it rains so hard, my plastic roof" - I guess she was outside or something - "you won't be able to hear me anyway". So we agreed to reschedule.

Then I had to order a new mic, same-day delivery, from Amazon. You're hearing this on Wednesday, May the 5th as I'm recording this on my Mac without my headphones because the microphone still works just I can't hear my guest.

So, I can't do an interview with my guest, obviously, because I can't read lips very well.

My point is, the last 13 days have been very interesting for me. I tried to look at myself as a Tigger from Winnie the Pooh. I talk about this quite frequently. But it really tested me these last 13 days, almost two weeks of things happening in my life.

Now, I believe that nothing is happenstance. Nothing happens just because. I believe there's a reason behind everything that happens. And I have noticed in the last couple months or so I have been struggling with patience.

We live in a microwave society. And I like things immediately. I mean, same day, really? So, I have to wait till 10 o'clock tonight, meaning on Tuesday to get my new microphone and hope it works for my interview on Wednesday. Of course, you're listening to this on Wednesday.

My point is, the first thing I did, which I knew was wrong, was that I became angry. I began to fall into the pit. And it is a pit where you think the world's against you. The world is not against you. The world doesn't care about you. The world is the world. It's your reaction. It's my reaction to what is happening to us that matters.

I confess I got really mad because I was ready to do an interview with this guest. It would have been an incredible interview, I just know, because all my guests always deliver to my audience. They bring the value, they bring the insights. And I'm like, "seriously? What's going on?" And I did everything I told you, I did. But at the end of the day, I just had to stop and go, "you know what? Everything is not going to go my way." Everything is not going to go your way every day, you're going to have things happen. Maybe the internet drops out, someone cuts into your cable. And now you got to wait a day to get the Internet back. Or maybe you lose a big client.

Or maybe, this happened to me and my wife about five years ago. It's a Saturday afternoon and we're just sitting in the living room watching TV. All of a sudden, we get a knock on our door. There's this lady and she hands this piece of paper and I said "thank you very much" and she walks away. I open it and it says "you have been foreclosed - you have three days to move out of your house". I started freaking out. I'm like, "what? I just paid our mortgage!"

After I thought about it for a second, I was like, "wait a minute! We're caught up on our mortgage!" I looked at the letter, and where we live, I don't know why the US post office did this, the street next to ours has the same numeric sequence.

So, let's say our street number is 2525. They delivered it to 2525 my street, when it should have been 2525 the other Street! But because I didn't look at the address, I immediately freaked out. Now, I laugh about it. Because how do you foreclose on someone when your mortgage is paid? It's very interesting.

We do this because it's human nature. We rush to assume the worst. What I want to encourage you, what I want you to get out of this episode that I had to record because I couldn't hear my guest.

I love how Tony Robbins says it, "life happens for you, not to you."

Put another way, there is not a conspiracy to ruin your life. Nobody, unless you have a bitter ex-wife or a bitter ex-friend, is out to get you.

You're going to have good days, and you're going to have bad days. You just have to say, "you know what? This is one of those days. It's testing me to see how I'm going to react to this day."

And I'll be completely transparent with you. A lot of times, I blow it. I know what I'm supposed to do, just like you know what you're supposed to do. But we fumble the ball and the other "team" picks it up and returns for a touchdown.

You know if you're an NFL quarterback, this is one of the things I heard from a number of athletes, a quarterback has to have the shortest memory on the field. If they throw an interception or they throw a ball too long for a wide receiver, who is wide open, and it would have been for a touchdown, they can't dwell on that. They have got to go. It is what it is. Next play. If they get sacked, next play.

We have to have the same mentality. The world is not out to get you. People probably in most cases don't care about you and me. They're just trying to live their lives. 

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