4 Ways to Embrace PositivityNov 13, 2019
Today, I want to talk to you about positivity. More specifically, I want to give you four ways, four big ideas on how you can embrace positivity and reject negativity.
Now number one, this probably comes as absolutely no surprise to you: stop watching the news. Now when I say stop watching the news, I don't just mean your local news or Fox News or CNN or MSNBC. I mean, all news everywhere, including social media.
So you know, when you go to the trending tab on Twitter, you look at the trending stuff on Facebook. No news.
You know you shouldn't do this, but I know you're like, does he really say no news? Yes. No news. I have been doing this for about six weeks now and let me tell you, just a couple days after I started my news fast, holy macaroni, I felt so much better. Better attitude, more productivity.
Now I don't want you to stop just there at stop watching the news. You have friends at work, and who you hang out with who say, "hey, did you hear what happened in Washington? Did you hear what happened to Trump? Or whoever your leader is. Did you hear about the democratic party?" No, stop. I don't want to know. Don't tell me.
Now, if a satellite is going to fall on my house, that I want to know. If there's a hurricane is barreling toward my home here in West Houston, that I want to know. But other than that, I don't want to know. Because all it does is make me angry. When I become angry, I become frustrated. I'm not as productive. So stop watching the news in any way, shape, or form. Again, on TV, on social media, especially from your friends at work. Stop consuming the news. Have I made myself clear?
Number two, who's in your inner circle? More specifically, who are you hanging around with? You remember the cartoon back in the day, Winnie the Pooh? Okay, there was a couple characters and I want you to think about. Now, if you don't know who Winnie the Pooh is, go Google it. It's a classic cartoon and when I was growing up, I'm 54 so that gives you a timeframe, but go Google if you don't know who Winnie the Pooh is.
Winnie the Pooh was a bear. A big happy bear. And all he wanted to do is go to an empty tree, where there's all kinds of bees and honey, and scoop up the honey and eat the honey that made him happy. There's another character who I think might have been diagnosed with ADHD, I don't know, Tigger, he was so hyperactive but he was so happy. And then there's Eeyore. Now, Eeyore was the kind of guy who's like, "oh, it's not going to work out. I'm never going to make it. Sigh."
Now, who are you? Would you say you're more Winnie the Pooh? Are you more excited like Tigger? Or are you like Eeyore?
Now let's take that one step further. What about your friends? What about the people you hang around? Are they Winnie the Pooh? Are they Tigger or are they Eeyore? And here's what I want you to do: if you got Eeyores in your life, I want you to find a way how you can spend less time around them. You know the people I'm talking about. The mere presence that you have in their lives sucks the energy out of you. Your neck starts to hurt, you get a migraine, your back hurts, everything hurts, you're like, "what's happening?" It's because they're sucking the life out of you.
But if you hang around a Winnie the Pooh, or a Tigger, what happens? You feel great. Okay, not that great, not Tony the Tiger, that's a different cartoon.
So, evaluate who's in your inner circle. Who you're hanging around with? Hang around people who are positive, like Winnie the Pooh and Tigger, and avoid the people, as much you can, who are the Eeyores.
Idea number three: what's your vocabulary like? Do you say a lot of "oh, I wish I could" or "I can't do it" or "it's my lot in life"? Your vocabulary really affects your positivity, which affects your productivity.
If you have to do something, and you're like, "I can't do it", you haven't even tried yet. I mean, I'm recording this video in the backyard of my house. When I first started creating these videos, when I first started recording The Mark Struczewski Podcast, I didn't know what I was doing. I just started doing it. And was I perfect in the beginning? No way. I stunk. You don't believe me? Go back and listen to episode one from July 7th, 2017. I actually titled that, The Worst Podcast I've Ever Done because theoretically, I should get better with every episode.
So what I want you to think about is as you go through your day and you're talking to other people, what's your attitude like? I mean, seriously, what's your vocabulary like? When you wake up in the morning, do you wake up like, "Oh, it's morning"? Or do you wake up and say, "Hey, it's morning!"?
I don't care if it's a Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday, Friday, Saturday, Sunday, Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday, Friday, Saturday, Sunday. I don't care what day the weekend is. Do you wake up with great anticipation? Or do you wake up and go "Oh my knees hurt? Oh my back? Oh, I didn't sleep well?" You know, I don't sleep well every night. I know I'm supposed to get 7 to 9 hours of sleep every night. Sometimes I do. Sometimes I don't. But I don't complain about it. That's another thing. Are you a complainer? Are you a gossiper? Or are you spending your time edifying both other people and yourself?
And the final thing, the fourth idea I have for you is your mindset. Do you believe that you can accomplish what you want to do? What do you want to accomplish? The dreams you have? Do you have a can-do attitude? Or do you say, "wow, I wish I could be like that person? Or I wish I could do that."?
I heard a video recently from Brendan Bouchard. I love Brendan Bouchard. I went through his Experts Academy. He's someone I'm striving to be like, and I'll tell you why: because he had a video that really resonated with me and perhaps this will resonate with you.
He says when he was a nobody, I mean, we're all somebody, but you know what I mean. He was nobody. He would look up to Tony Robbins and Oprah Winfrey and Richard Branson, and he wouldn't say, "ah, man, I wish I was like them. Oh, be great to be like them." No, he said, "I can't wait to meet these people. I can't wait to collaborate with these people. I can't wait to be on the same stage with these people." So, he put himself in that mindset. What about you? When you look at your goals, your big hairy audacious goals as Jim Collins in Built To Last said, do you look at the Mount Everest you want a summit and go, "oh, I could never summit Mount Everest"? Now whatever your Mount Everest is, it could be Mount Everest, it could be becoming president of the United States or the leader of your country or something else. Do you go, "oh my gosh, I could never do it."? Or do you say, "Hey, I can't wait till I become what I want to become.? It really does matter. Your mindset really does matter.
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