Living an Aligned and At-Ease Life - Tiffany Nguyen

life coach Jun 08, 2021
Mark Struczewski, Tiffany Nguyen

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Tiffany Nguyen is The Spunk Spiritualist! She's a pharmacist and spiritual life coach who guides people to an aligned, at-ease life by having a solid, fulfilling relationship with themselves.

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Mark Struczewski
Tiffany Nguyen, welcome to the show.

Tiffany Nguyen
Thank you, Mark.

Mark Struczewski
So I have to ask this right off the top. Why do you call yourself the spunky spiritualist?

Tiffany Nguyen
It's because of my personality, like that are quite quirky. And usually in normal conversation or even in my coaching, I use dark humor and swear words.

Mark Struczewski
But there will be none of those on the show. Right? Tiffany?

Tiffany Nguyen
Not today. Not not for the show, at least.

Mark Struczewski
Okay, great. What's interesting is, when my guests sign up for the show, I ask them if they have a difficult name to tell me how to say it. Well, I first was exposed to the spelling of Nguyen, in another lifetime. I worked with some guy in a steel factory when I was going through college. And I'm like, oh, really? That's when I had no clue. So I knew how to say your name. Before I even read that part of how to say your name. Are you impressed with me?

Tiffany Nguyen
Very impressed. I didn't have to, you know, explain to you how to say it. As long as you say it as one word and not two words then it's good.

Mark Struczewski
It's very interesting because your name is spelled Nguyen but it's pronounced like win. Now what country are you from originally?

Tiffany Nguyen
I'm from Vietnam.

Mark Struczewski
Okay, so how do they say it in Vietnamese?

Tiffany Nguyen
Win.

Mark Struczewski
Oh, really? Okay, I thought you were gonna tell me some different pronunciation. So that's pretty cool. Okay, well, you're a pharmacist and a spiritual life coach. And before we get into how to live an aligned, at-ease life, that just sounds so good. Well, I asked you a question about pharmacists, and pharmacy things, okay. Because I'll be 56 years old on June 21. And I am taking better care of my body now than I ever have been. And some of my listeners know that I've been running every day since August 29, 2017. But now, I'm really kicking processed foods out of my life. I read a book by Dr. Mercola. I just finished listening to a book by Dr. Lustig, Metabolical and their premise is, food is medicine. And I have come to the opinion the last couple years, that when things aren't going well, we should look to the food, maybe adding food or eliminating food, before we take a pill. What say you?

Tiffany Nguyen
Food is really very important. And I think people will just think it's because also about life pace, you know, and people just don't have the time, or they don't know how to cook, or it just very hectic in their life, that it's hard to prepare like good wholesome meals. And it's not always easy to just do meal prep at you know, each week, you know, but yeah, food is very important. And it's contributed a lot to a lot of different disease states.

Mark Struczewski
And let's be honest, it's real easy to open your phone, tap, grubhub, tap, Uber, eats and bring that junk food to your home. And so what my wife and I have done, we just finished four days with Tony Robbins, up w we got rid of 99.99% of processed foods out of our house because here's the thing, if you're really hungry, and you don't have that crap in your house, you'll say, oh, I'll have an apple or have some organic yogurt or all have some carrots. But if you have Oreo cookies, or ice cream, or cupcakes, what do you think you're going to go for? We all know you're going to go for the stuff that the body doesn't need.

Tiffany Nguyen
Yeah, processed food is just terrible. And I guess in varying degree, but a lot most of them and just not good for you. Because they have so many preservative and a lot of the ingredients or just like component to put in. They tend to go forward to make to cater to the pace of either fat or sweet and neither of them are good for you.

Mark Struczewski
One thing I learned from Dr. Mercola his book, The Truth About COVID. He talks about Linoleic acid, which predominantly comes from from omega six. And so he's got this really fancy calculation that you can calculate how much I'll call la because I have trouble saying Lino leak acid, and it should be between one and two now. If I'm eating right, which means not a lot of processed foods, the number is between one and two. Last Friday, I had a moment of weakness, and I had McDonald's in my la number was seven. That tells you how, because they had to put the Omega six in the food so it stays longer. And it tastes crispy and it tastes good to your point. And so I I'm just glad that you agree with me that if you can, it's better to do holistic, go outside, go for a walk, exercise, get rid of the processed foods drink water, before you take the pill. I think people take pills out of convenience. Well, I'm not, I'm still gonna eat all the fast food, I want to take this pill, well, why don't you not eat the fast food, then you want to take the pill. But to your point, people are just they don't want to cook they don't want to learn and look at it doesn't take long, very long to know what food you eat. It really doesn't. But you've got to really want it I think more than time, you really gotta want it. You agree?

Tiffany Nguyen
Yes, what else Oh, is I would say it will be difficult for a lot of people since I seen in my work. I say some family have, you know, many kids and that time are very limited. And the thing about fresh food is, you know, you have to go to the grocery market quite often. You know, you don't, you cannot just leave it for weeks. And also people have you know, like different kind of schedule. Like I know, like a lot of truck driver, they don't have the condition to just have homemade cook, you know, they cannot cook are they on the road all the time. So there's a lot of different professions that are similar like that. Also, healthcare professional, we just have very crazy hectic schedule, and very long hours. So it's not easy to cook after you work 1316 hour shift either. So is, is all different people live are different. And not always people have the economic means to afford healthy fresh food all the time also. So

Mark Struczewski
Yeah, I tell my wife when she goes shopping to buy organic food if she can. And she goes, Well, it's expensive. I said, Yeah. But if we're not buying the processed stuff, we could take that money, and we can buy organic food. So we're finding our balance, we've really gone off this on the soon diet of no processed foods except for McDonald's last Friday. And for the first six days, I dropped like seven pounds. It's amazing. And what I do, is I don't eat breakfast anymore. And people go, oh, what you don't have breakfast is the most important meal of the day. Actually, the guy who came up with that is a guy by the name of Kellogg. Hmm, where we heard that name before. Oh, yeah, he created cereal. So what I do is I have my last food at eight o'clock at night, and I don't eat until like 11 o'clock now we're recording is 11 o'clock. So I'll eat when this meal when this meal when this CMR thing about food when this, this podcast is over. And it's actually making me feel better. So you do you listener, but at least go do your research about processed foods, just go to your favorite search engine, and do your research and come to your own conclusions. I was a guy I love my ice cream, cupcakes, all that stuff. But I realized what it was doing to me. And if I want to make 100 I knew I had to take care of myself. So just do your research. And that's all I'm asking you to do. So spunky. spiritualists, how can we live an aligned at ease? Like I love that? Who doesn't want to live in Eddie's life? I don't think anyone listening this conversation. They go, No, Tiffany, I want a more stress life. I want continuous stress. No one says that, right? People want to have an aligned at ease life. So how do we do that.

Tiffany Nguyen
So live is can be challenging. And there's a lot of things, we cannot control it. But in a line that is live is where you live truly to yourself. A lot of us, especially high achiever, we are quite ambitious. And we tend to have the set of standards or goals that we need to meet. And often we don't stop and examine those go who set up for us. We tend to do that from society, the set of fours or our family or our peer pressure or a lot of things we just think that we should achieve it and not always align with who we are. So we never stopped to question it. We're just always on the go and tried to achieve it. So that's one of the thing and another one is when challenging things comes up. We is all we have to come back to ourselves and be present. And there's a lot there's a lot to do with acceptance and surrender. And that's where with the ease from there. Because that no way we can have complete control of whatever happened in our life.

Mark Struczewski
That's that's very true. I want to go back quickly to the goals. I think this is my opinion that most people get caught up in the New Year's resolutions, like the last week of December, like between Christmas and New Year's. They said all these vague New Year's resolutions and they use the same I want to lose weight and better shape, eat better stop smoking, the same ones. But I and then don't remember them until the next December. And I would encourage people to create goals now. This is June 8 2021. You don't have to wait till January 1. If you don't have any goals, I want to create some goals. But more than that, and I like to know your thoughts on this Tiffany, the spunky spiritualist I love saying that. I want to encourage people to write them down every day. Because when you write them down with a pen, and a bullet journal or notebook, they become embedded in your subconscious. It's not like yeah, it's out there someplace. It's in your subconscious. Do you agree that it's powerful to write the goals down every day? You got Facebook? Well, I am on Facebook, I have a Facebook page. And I have a Facebook group, both under the name of Mr. productivity. So if you are into Facebook, if you love Facebook, go look me up on Facebook, just look for Mr. productivity.

Tiffany Nguyen
I don't think that it necessary to write every day, people but really need to be clear on their motivation of why they were doing it. How are they losing weight because of their own health is much more stronger motivation than looking good for trying to get the sum of whatever we're for them. But the best thing I think is set a goal. I think that's very common, but it's called SMART goal, you have to be specific and have to be realistic. Don't set a goal to lose 50 pounds when you know you don't have the willpower to do so or you don't have the condition to do it. And or like exercise, something like that. Don't just start out with I'm gonna exercise one hour a day and stuff, let's style low and then work your way up into it. And one of the also another best practice is to actually comment accommodated in the schedule, like, block it in the schedule. So we can is easier to have that discipline to go do it is that of you know, I will do it today. But we don't plan any specific time or like, set aside any specific time, then it's much harder to keep up with it.

Mark Struczewski
I am a daily runner. As I mentioned earlier, I've been running every day since August 29 2017. And I post my runs on social media and people go Oh, you're motivating me to to run and and exercise. But you just brought up a good point. Don't do it because I'm doing it. That's silly. I yeah, I can inspire you to say, Man I I'm looking at my god or my blood pressure is too high or whatever. But you got to do it for you. So it's fine to be inspired by other people. But that shouldn't be while you're doing it, especially if you don't know me. And I think that is really important what you said, because you also talked about my favorite question the whole world Why? Why are you doing this? Why are you doing it? Why you listen to this podcast? Why do you live where you do? I think people are living life so fast. They're not slowing down enough to go Why am I doing this? Why do I drive to work this way? Why do I eat this food? Why do I have coffee at this time? And I think if you just stop enough and go hmm Why am I always doing this? I think it could really help you see life your life in a whole new way.

Tiffany Nguyen
Yes at the question why is super powerful? Because not only give you like the real motivation to keep pushing through when something you know like one day we would get up let's say you're a runner and it's raining pouring out, for example, you know, but we you if you know why you were doing it, you might want to you know get put on a raincoat radica stuff. But it we have to know like what is really important for us is really give us that drive to actually get something done especially when something get hard, especially when we don't feel like it. You know, there's a lot of day that we don't get that natural motivation to do. Everybody wanted, you know, to sit down and be lazy once in a while. But if we know why we were doing it, then we could do that. But you know, different different things also is a good balance to pick when we start doing something. We have to pick something that we enjoy, you know, sure so that like like sort of exercise. You know, if you you're Your goal is, let's say to lose weight. And you want to do some kind of exercise, you don't always have to pick biking or running or hiking, just make sure you do something you enjoy. Maybe boxing, kickboxing, you don't have to pick great, whatever you enjoy to keep it going. So like make it easier yourself, don't just copy what everybody else doing.

Mark Struczewski
Yes, a couple good points is if you want to run in the morning, or walk in the morning, or bike or something like that, make sure you have your stuff laid out. Now I don't have to do this. I've been running almost four years in a row. So I don't have to do this. My clothes, don't be anywhere near my running stuff couldn't be anywhere near where my bed is, because I'm conditioned. But if you're going to start, have it ready. The other thing is the last four days, Thursday, Friday, Saturday, Sunday, I was doing up w Tony Robbins unleash the power within for 14 hours a day. So I burned a lot of calories because you don't sit, there's not like going to class, you sit there, you sit there for 2030 minutes, they get up and you dance around a walk around. So my Apple watch says, Man, you're burning a lot of calories today. So to your point, there's a lot of different ways. If you don't want to run, don't run, maybe you walk maybe now when I say walk, I don't mean a real slow walk, I mean, elevate the heart rate breakout to a mild sweat, maybe you put some music on your dance around your house, I mean, do something to get that blood flowing. Now dealing, you're talking about letting letting it go. And if anyone's listening to the show, and you don't have kids go out and rent the movie, no, go buy them will be frozen, and learn how to sing the song, let it go. Because there are a lot of people, Tiffany, you know where I'm going with this, that just have to let things go if you can't control them, like if you get upset about the weather, you can't control it. So you've got to let it go. There are so many things out there that we have zero control about and yet we let them stress ourselves out. Why? Why let that stress us out? When it's it's not doing anything inside all interests apart?

Tiffany Nguyen
I think is it first of all depend on each person personality. But I think everybody that ever worked in customer service will know how hard it is some time to let it go. And letting go with actually quite a practice. It's not easy to like let's say even a job it is not always easy to just listen to like a constructive criticism from your boss. And, and not take it personally. Sometimes we hold on to it a lot. And that even when in our relationship if conflict rise up and sometime is it's hurtful thing were said and we're not always easy to just let it go and not take it so personally. But it's a it's a good practice, we have to find that balance and know what we do wrong. And when we not. And there's a lot of thing when we look at is have to be there's objective side. And like some other people perceptions or reactions to an event, then we don't don't that don't want to take it personally,

Mark Struczewski
I think have a go a long way. If someone says something to you, that really triggers you restrain yourself from responding right away, maybe you count the five or 10 in your head. Or maybe you take a deep breath or something like that. Because if you give your brain time to hear what they said, and the process that maybe you'll go, Oh, you know, that's very valid. But because they said it to you, maybe it was their tone. Maybe it was their words, whatever was and you react, you may be missing the lesson. Okay, there is lesson and every feedback. And we like to take the lessons from positive feedback. But there's a lot of lessons and negative feedback. And I tell my coach, I said look at rip the bandage off. Tell me Don't beat around the bush. Because I don't want to go learn the lesson in four weeks. I won't learn it right now. And now that may be scary for some of you. But let me ask you, do you want to know the truth now? Or do you want to know the truth as it is? Now you want to know that in four weeks? I say just rip the bandage off and tell me because I can start processing it.

Tiffany Nguyen
Yeah, I think people underestimate how much some time how much time and conscious effort put into process specific emotions, especially something that's very strong like anger. And, you know, people have different way of coping, I think had a lot of them can be unhealthy. But it's not good to suppress it and just glossing it over. I think one of the point to raise is when we get Trigger, when we suddenly get mad or somebody just say like something, and we just got very mad at it is a good point to start asking the question, why is a very important question I Why am I getting triggered? right? Especially, I think I work in retail and pharmacy a lot of years. And it's fused like 80% of the time is getting complaints or getting people yelling at me and something about pharmacy, everything can be blamed on the pharmacy for I think it's very similar with customer service, you know, at that person gonna be complaining. And a lot of it we have to take right, you know, people have different, you know, they probably having a bad day that time, a lot of things even when it sounds like it's personal, but probably not. Most of them most of the time is probably not. So we just have to take a deep breath. And sometimes we just take it over there and then think about it back then, you know, and I guess Don't take it personally and kind of move on. It's much harder when we do it in relationship because that is very, very personal. But we also need to come look at it with a more objective. I then react into it in right in the moment because we're most likely going to regret the way we say things and the way we left things or the way things are.

Mark Struczewski
Very true. Very true. Well, spunky spiritualists gave us a lot to think about a lot of insights, a lot of tips. I really love the fact that you push back with me on the goals, we agreed to disagree on that. I believe there's power in writing your goals down. But here's the thing when I write my goals every day, I don't look at what I wrote yesterday, because today's a new day. Now they're usually the same goals, but they may be something different. So we agree to disagree. That's pretty cool. So where can people find out more about you what you're doing in the world? I love this because I know what your website is. So where can they go to find out more about you?

Tiffany Nguyen
Is it going to be spunkyspiritualist.com

Mark Struczewski
I love that. I love that. Listen, I've never had a guest on the show. Use the word spunky ever. So you you're creating history after nearly four years. You're creating history Tiffany.

Tiffany Nguyen
I'm glad to be the first one.

Mark Struczewski
Well, thank you so much for being on the show is a delight to have you here.

Tiffany Nguyen
Thank you, Mark.

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