What Breaks My Heart About Being a Productivity Coach

coaching productivity Feb 05, 2021
What Breaks My Heart About Being a Productivity Coach

Let me start by saying I love being a productivity coach.

I truly love it when people come to me overwhelmed, frustrated, and feeling hopeless, and leave feeling peaceful, happy, and in control.

While most clients are awesome and get a lot of value from our time together (their words, not mine), three things break my heart about being a productivity coach.

In no particular order…

1. Clients giving up

I’ve been both a coach and a client. So, I understand both sides of the equation.

Being coached is a process. It’s not like taking a magic pill.

There will be pain, frustration, and a host of other emotions. There will be work.

It’s all part of the process to help you grow.

Some clients I’ve dealt with can’t handle the pressure or don’t think they can when they really can.

As anyone who has ever lifted weights knows, you get stronger because you’re actually causing micro-tears in the muscle.

“No pain, no gain” is a reality not only in weight lifting but in life. Anyone who says you can grow without pain is being disingenuous.

When a client gets frustrated and wants to give up, it breaks my heart.

Especially if they’re making progress.

I do all I can to get them to reconsider, but sometimes they’ve made up their minds, and they quit.

2. Clients not doing the work

It’s true: you get out of coaching what you put into it.

How many courses have you purchased but never started, or started and then quit?

How many books do you have that sit on your shelf or on the “books I want to read” pile?

Have you ever wanted to run a marathon but haven’t even gone out for a slow jog?

The magic of investing in a coach is only partly the coach…it’s you and the work you put into it.

As I look back on the coaches I’ve hired, the awesome ones were the ones that proactively gave me work to do and followed up to make sure I did it.

The other ones? Well, I categorize them as cheerleaders.

When I give clients work to do that I know works, either through personal experience or through other clients’ experience, and they don’t do it or dismiss it as if it won’t work, it breaks my heart.

Like every other human on this planet, I have 24 hours to spend every day.

Coaching clients is not the only thing I do. I have other things I do daily: The Mark Struczewski Podcast, writing, engaging on social media, running, reading/personal development, hanging out with my wife and our 2.5-year-old pupper, Gracie.

Because I want to be at my best for each client, I limit the number of clients I take on at one time and limit how many appointments I will schedule each day.

So, when a client doesn’t do the work, I wonder why they even bothered to reach out to me.

And finally…

3. Clients not taking the process seriously

This one surprises me.

If you went to your doctor and they diagnosed you with something and gave you a treatment plan, chances are good you’d take it seriously and follow their instructions.

If you were busted for running a red light and the officer wrote you a ticket and told you what you had to do, like pay the fine online, go to court, etc., you’d follow their instructions.

And yet…

When I give clients suggestions that I know work, and they don’t even try them for some reason, it puzzles me.

The whole point of investing in a coach is to help you reach your goals faster and make, hopefully, fewer mistakes.

Your coach has been where you are and is or is going where you want to go.

When they tell you to do something, it’s because they have a genuine desire to help you achieve your goals.

I’ve never had to fire a client yet, but I’ve come close. Those who don’t want to DO tend to quit. I guess they thought I was a wizard, and I could wave my magic wand and make them better.

I’m not a wizard, and that’s not how coaching works.


You have to put in the work.

You have to want to be a better you.

Otherwise, you’re wasting your time and that of your coach.

I love being a coach, but…

When clients give up, don’t do the work, or take the coaching seriously, it frustrates me; it breaks my heart.

I’m being honest.

I have plenty of coaches in my circle of influence, and they all have the same frustrations. They all hurt when clients do the three things I’ve mentioned in this article.

I hope you enjoyed this article. Thank you for reading it.

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